Words for Fathers

Father's Day 2020 is right around the corner.

The essay below from cartoonist Gary Varvel really hit me good.  Reality check!!

If you play any type of key role in the life of a child, I encourage you to read this.


Grace & Peace & Love to you all -

Matt




“And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

There is a scene in the movie, Hook, when Peter Banning (Robin Williams), who is obsessed with work, gets a call from the office while on a family vacation. His wife throws his phone out of the window and says,

“Your children love you. They want to play with you. How long do you think that lasts?… We have a few special years with our children when they are the ones who want us around. After that, you’re going to be running after them for a bit of attention. It’s so fast, Peter. Just a few years and it’s over. You are not being careful and you are missing it.”

Men, our first ministry is to our wife and children – in that order.

They are a gift from God. And as the verse above says, it is the duty of fathers to lead their children in the “training and admonition (instruction) of the Lord.” Men, God made you in His image and your children will get their idea of what God is like from watching you. Sure, we need to work and provide for our family. But they also need our love and attention. And they need our time; both in quality and quantity.

My greatest achievement in life is not any award for cartooning. It is being a husband and father and now a grandfather.

Years ago, I met an executive who made a lot of money but traveled a lot for his job. When a friend shared with him the following story, he quit his job. His friend told him that there will be three different groups of people who will show up to grieve his death:

Group 1. The people who will attend your visitation
Group 2. The people who will attend your funeral
Group 3. The people who will attend your graveside service

The largest group is the first group. It usually consists of friends, family and a few co-workers. The second group is smaller. It usually consists of close friends and family. But the smallest group of people will be the ones who attend your graveside service. These are the people who loved you the most because of the impact you had on them while you were on earth.

My question to you: Which group is getting most of your time?

My children are adults now and thankfully are following the Lord. That didn’t happen by accident. No, my wife and I worked together to raise them for God. I’m a grandfather now. I can’t believe how fast it has all gone by. Take my advice: Don’t miss it.

Happy Father’s Day!

Gary Varvel
Award-winning Cartoonist and Speaker